It’s not any more difficult to be courteous than it is to be rude, I’ve always believed.
There are times, of course, when we don’t want to be rude. Likewise, times arise when we don’t want to be courteous either. Generally, however, courtesy in the workplace is a good idea. These are people you see every day, and you might actually spend more time with them than you do with family. It’s easy to forget that sometimes.
Almost two months ago, we hired a new ATR Coordinator. She’s been doing her best to integrate into the group, keeping her head down so she can get things done. So far, she’s done an admirable job of getting her feet under her and making sure she can keep up with each day’s requests.
She’s not a new employee any more. She’s been onboard with us for almost two months. How long do you think it should take normal people to learn her name in that time?
Now, you’ve seen me complain about V before. He’s the one who’s likely having an affair with T here in the office, and they don’t hide it very well. (She was viewed rubbing her foot on his leg in plain view of everyone at a standup meeting in our area last year some time.) Well, V thinks he’s quite the lady’s man, and our new ATR Coordinator is a former fashion model. You might guess where this is going.
But V has a problem remembering our new ATR Coordinator’s name. For instance, if someone’s name is “Anna,” he would consistently call her “Ann” instead. Some people don’t mind this sort of slip-up. And I probably wouldn’t notice it either if it weren’t all the time.
Think about it. While there’s a subtle difference between Anna and Ann, it’s still not the right name. That’s akin to calling someone Steve if their name is Ralph or Joe or anything other than Steve. It’s just uncouth, unless they’ve asked you to do so, or in some way expressed permission for you to do so. And it’s not difficult; all he has to do is add the last vowel sound to get the name right.
I’ve told her not to allow it, but she just responds to the misnomer. (I suspect V is not the first person in her life to get this wrong, and she’s not offended by it anymore.) She laughs at my agitation and says she has to pick her battles. She’s probably right, and she’s certainly more mature. It still frosts my hide, though, because it’s just rude to continually get someone’s name wrong, even after they’ve corrected you.
Yes, she did correct him once or twice. She’s given up on doing so, I suppose.
I wonder how many times I’ve been rude or thoughtless this way to others? I have to take pause when I see this sort of thing. I always try to get someone’s name correct, and I always argue in favor of people’s names being whatever they say it is, regardless of what anyone else thinks it should be. So, they spell it one way and pronounce it another? That’s their prerogative. It’s their name. So they have a weird spelling? Well, I guess they’re entitled to spell it the way they’d like. It’s theirs.
It just irks me no end this person can’t be bothered to get her name right.
I suppose it’s just one more in a long, long line of peeves I have.